My beloved grandmother, to whom I was extremely close, passed away in late July. There’s not a day goes by that I don’t think about “Mama.” I miss our daily phone calls. I miss her pretty smile. And, I miss her Southern cooking, especially her cabbage rolls (see recipe link below!)
And, I’m not alone. Many of us have loved ones who have transitioned. During the holidays, our hearts are often tested when empty chairs (or doggie beds) seem to bring the absences closer to us. “Christmas isn’t going to be the same this year with my husband gone,” one of my intuitive consultation clients recently told me. True, it’s not the same; but since my spiritual awakening a few years ago (more details about that in later blog posts), I now understand that the end of one’s physical being doesn’t mean the end of our relationship with that person. Through prayer, meditation and memories, we can still stay connected spiritually with those who have passed. Since I discovered my intuitive gift a few years ago, I’ve opened myself up to learning more about our spiritual souls. I’ve read dozens of books by noted experts on the subject and have attended events where famous mediums like James Van Praagh and John Edward have relayed messages from the deceased to the living. And, yes, I have received my own share of messages from the spiritual world for clients and myself (although, I wouldn’t say it’s exactly like what happens to Whoopi Goldberg’s character in “Ghost.”)
The client whose husband had passed away went on to say, “I’m not going to put up a tree this year because that was my husband’s favorite thing to do.” I shared with her that while it’s good to mourn the loss, it’s also healthy to honor his memory by doing something for which he was passionate – decorating the tree! The deceased don’t want us to stop living just because they are gone. It’s the exact opposite: they want us to continue to get the most out of life. That’s one reason why the deceased will often try to make connections with us through a number of ways – moving objects, entering our dreams, creating their personal odors (like faint cigarette smoke or a particular cologne) – to either convey a message or simply just to let us know that they’re still around in spirit.
As for my beautiful late grandmother, she opted to stay connected with me through her love of cooking. A few weeks ago, I was running errands in Palm Springs and made an unscheduled stop at a grocery that I seldom shop. While in the meat department, I couldn’t believe my eyes! Placed perfectly for me to see in the display case were cabbage rolls. Immediately, I bought several to take home to bake that night for dinner. Less than an hour later, my sister, Tracy, who lives in North Carolina, calls and says, “Guess what I’m having for dinner tonight? Mama’s homemade cabbage rolls!” Our mother had emailed Tracy our grandmother’s recipe that morning!
I almost dropped my cell phone. “You’re not gonna believe this, but I’m having cabbage rolls tonight too,” and proceeded to tell her my story. Not only did Mama’s love connect with me, it is also reached out to my sister and mother, as we all had a direct link to her spirit (and cabbage rolls) that day. And since then, I have received other signs and messages from Mama. Yes, I miss her, but I smile and sometimes cry in the happiest of ways knowing that her presence is still with me. And, it will be more than ever when I spend Christmas this year in Alabama.
Now, while your loved one may reach out to you in a special manner other than cabbage rolls, I still thought I’d share Mama’s famous recipe below…I know this would make her very happy!
Love and light,