“I want to go to on a skiing vacation, but I can’t. I have too much work to do around the house,” a friend recently shared with me over dinner. While he wasn’t one of my intuitive consultation clients, I thought about his remark: He wanted something, yet had an excuse as to why he couldn’t have it. Strange thing, however, he wasn’t finished with his comment. He continued to heap on more reasons as to why he couldn’t go skiing…”too expensive,” “my friends have already gone skiing this year” and “the snow’s probably going to be crappy anyway.”
We’ve all probably been in similar situations…maybe not about skiing, but we’ve found reasons not to pursue something that’s desired. There are two reasons why we elect to go down that road of putting off what we want. First, sometimes we think it’s easier to place that idea or experience on hold, that we shouldn’t offset the steady flow of our lives. The other reason, and it’s a biggie, is fear. Fear of guilt. Fear of disappointment. Fear of failure. You name it, we can stamp FEAR on it! (I’m currently developing a workshop, aptly titled, “Fear Sucks!”).
If my friend were a client, I’d ask him to conduct a simple exercise. Since he finds it easy to come up with a roster of negative reasons, I’d ask him to give his scorecard some balance. For each reason why he can’t go skiiing, he has to match it with a reason why he can go skiing. For example, he could go skiing because he has the time off from work, he’s in great health and ski resorts can be a perfect place to meet new friends. Despite what outcome he chooses, he owes it to himself (we all do), to at least do a balance sheet, especially when it’s related to what we want. When I get visions or messages about something to which clients aspire and they start cranking out negativity, this approach is beneficial. By the end of their sessions, clients have a clearer look at their situations.
The bottom line is a balance sheet will help manifest what it is you want! Sound fair?
Love and light,